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How my father grew a beard and I didn’t even recognise him

You may have seen photos of celebrities with and without their beard. You can easily see the difference between those photos. They look more mature with their beards on, but are younger without one. In fact, there are instances in which you can barely recognize them. They look as if they were different persons.

I felt the same way with my father. I used to seeing him without a beard. He is a clean guy who shaves almost all the time. He doesn’t let his facial hair grow too long without trimming it or shaving it off. This is why I was totally surprised when suddenly, he has grown a beard. I barely noticed it as I was away from home for several months to attend college. I was just surprised to go home one day seeing him with long beard. It was a surreal moment. It was as if I went home to a different house and I have seen a different father.

Why he did it

I confronted him about his decision to grow a beard and he didn’t say anything weird or surprising. He just wanted a different look and so he decided to grow a beard. He told me that it would be fun to shake things up and come up with a look that we are not used to. He also told me that he has not grown a beard at any stage of his life and it would be fun to have one now. Besides, it is as if he is in a corporate world where he has to look clean and shaven. He said that since his retirement, he has stayed home almost all the times.

He also told me though that it was not a permanent look. In fact, he is already preparing his shaving kit to remove the beard any time. He starts feeling itchy with the beard and he wants to even rip it off. He is just trying his patience and find out how long it would take him before deciding to shave the hair off.

Hearing his story made me feel relieved. I thought there was a deeper reason behind his decision to grow a beard. I thought he had a tough fight with my other or that we are in a deep financial trouble. Apparently, none of those suspicions were true. He was just trying to experiment at a late stage in his life.

A rebel at heart

He grew up in a very strict environment. His mother was conservative and they were raised in an uptight Christian family. He also studied in a Catholic school and even went on a mission to South America for a few months. He has graduated with flying colors and even proceeded with his postgraduate studies. This is the reason why he wants to shake things up right now. He knows that if he won’t do it now, he might not have the chance.

Going back to the old look

After a week of being at home for the summer break, I have woken up to the old father that I used to know. He has already removed the beard and looked great again. Personally, I prefer him without one. He looked a lot younger without a beard. He also showed me the beard trimmer that he has purchased online. He was very proud of it. In fact, he bought it long before he decided to grow a beard.

A touching story

I have never seen this side of my father before. He was really uptight and slightly conservative, even though he was more liberal with us. I appreciated him more with his move to grow a beard. It might seem like a crazy move, but he deserved it. In fact, all of us do. Whether it is growing a beard or dying our hair, it is ultimately our choice. As long as we think it would liberate us and make us feel better, we should do it.

Perhaps, I will also do some crazy stuff someday. I was thinking of changing my hair color this summer to surprise my family. However, growing a beard is definitely not in my plan. It would take lots of courage before I even decide to go for it.

Also read: James Partleton- Information On His Further Years

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Top 5 Ways to Enhance Your Family Time in the 21st Century

In today’s age and time, it is quite difficult to come up with a quality family time. In between work and chores at home, spending time with the entire family could be a big struggle. There are times when you want to go out and have fun with the kids, but you just want to make use of that time to take a nap. There are ways though for you to still enhance your family time in this modern age.

  1. Seek help. It doesn’t hurt if you let other people do your job for you. If you can afford to pay someone to clean your house up or cook your meals, then do it. You would rather pay someone and get that extra time to bond with your kids and do everything by yourself and get really cranky.
  2. Involve the kids. There are times when you have to work but your kids would love to play with you. The best option is to let your kids help you out. They would feel great if they can also help with the chores. It is also a way of teaching them valuable lessons.
  3. Don’t bring your job home. It is a must that when the time for work is over, it should really be over. The moment you are back home, you are a parent and a partner. Don’t let deadlines bother you. Make sure that you don’t talk work at home especially in front of the kids.
  4. Maximize the use of technology. There are things that could be made easier using technology. For instance, you can put everything on a reminder app so that you won’t forget certain tasks. You can also download software to help you with certain jobs while you spend time with your kids.
  5. Install above ground pools. Who doesn’t want the best above ground pools? This would cost a fortune but if it helps enhance your family time, then go for it. You work hard for your family. They deserve only the best. Having this pool at home will definitely make you spend more time with each other.

Family time is important. You have to do everything you could to be a good parent and a partner.

Also read: How The Industrial Revolution Changed The Lives Of British Citizens

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A Flash Into The Childhood Of James Partleton

James Partleton was born on 05/05/1837. His parents were James Partleton & Mary Ann Palmer.
There are opinions that May Ann Palmer was married earlier to another man. Divorce was a rare occurrence those days, so it is said that his parents could never get married. James was their first of nine kids. His birth place was Houghton Street, Clare Market, Strand.

At the age of four, James was baptised at Feathers Court, a yard which was notorious for all kinds of vices like prostitution, drunkenness, all kinds of disease outbreaks etc.

Drury Lane at Feathers Court is where James lived till he was 9 years. There were many other notorious streets nearby like Coal Yard where thieves found harbour, Barley court which was home to returned convicts, men & women of bad character etc.

Ashlin’s place was yet another building which later came to be known as Ragged Staff Court. The condition of this place was so bad due to a sickening smell that passing through that street was also a torture. The pathetic situation of the neighbourhoods can be understood as James lost his brother and two sisters to serious diseases.

Every room in Feathers Court had one family staying in it. James used to stay with his large family in a single room .There was no proper arrangement for cooking in any of these rooms. The house was intended for one family which never happened. All the families had to sacrifice many comforts and adjust with meagre facilities.

The sewage and septic tank facilities were almost nonexistent .These unhygienic conditions led way to outbreak of many diseases which claimed the lives of many.

Another building was Russell Court which was a special place to live in as it had a cemetery in the courtyard. It was here that most of the people in the neighbourhood were buried.

The above description would give you an idea of the environment in which James lived in the early years of his childhood.

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James Partleton- Information On His Further Years

After nine years of wretched existence at Drury Lane, the Partletons decided to move to Lambeth, where the rest of the Partleton clan was living. Though they moved with great hopes of getting a better future, nothing of the sort happened. Things seemed to go worse there. James got a new baby brother on 2/05/1847.Then they must have moved to Dukes Head Court (also known as Crookets Alley) as there is evidence that he lost a sister in 1849 there. She died from Cholera, most probably contracted from drinking contaminated water from Thames.

Two years later the family was still in the same place as proven in the UK census taken then. A school called Ragged school is mentioned in records. It was run by charity and had just two classrooms-One for boys and the other for girls. There is no evidence that James ever attended school. His elder generation knew how to read and write, however he could not even sign his name. Probably his younger brothers and sisters attended school.

In July 1851, a new baby had joined the family. From the 1861 census, it is understood that James was then a labourer who still lived with his parents in Lambeth. James lived next to the stinkiest soap factories of the neighbourhood. At the age of 25, he got married to Emma Gould .From the marriage certificate, it is understood that Emma was a literate.

Catherine Partleton, James’ sister, was a witness to the marriage. James had given his occupation as a painter in the same. They must have moved to Waterloo for a while and then back to Lambeth where his first son was born in 1862.The baby was christened at St Mary-the-Less Church. When his second child was born in 1864, they were living at Wickham Street. However this baby girl did not survive for more than a year. The next girl was born in 1865.

Then again another baby girl in 1866. The family moved north following James’ work. James and Emma had twin baby boys later out of whom one passed away six months after birth. They had two more boys in the coming years. James was working as a rice miller by this time. His living conditions were improving and the family was crawling out of the very poor state.

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How The Industrial Revolution Changed The Lives Of British Citizens

The Industrial revolution influenced the life in Victorian England to a great extent. Citizens from rural areas started moving to the cities where the social change was dominant. Along with the advantages, a number of negative effects also came into existence.

Victorian Houses

As the population of the city regions increased suddenly, there were many issues regarding how to accommodate all the citizens. Many grand houses were converted into flats Tenemant buildings were constructed to accommodate workers and their families. The living conditions were pathetic and a single family irrespective of the number of members had to be cramped into a single room. The basic facilities like running water, cooking facilities, sanitation arrangements were all minimal. In spite of these bad living conditions, the rent was unbearable. The tenants could not argue for fear of being asked to vacate.

Public facilities

An advantage of this enormous shift of people to the city was the invention of many public facilities for the convenience of citizens. The London Tube was introduced in 1863 which was a huge success. It aided in the transportation of millions of people .The Tower Bridge was built in 1894 which was another convenience for movement.


Crime

Probably due to the poor living conditions, most of the crimes reported at that time were petty thefts, food stealing etc. violent crimes were rare. People were basically struggling to survive.

Shops

The idea of Department shops came into existence by the mid 1800s.Before this all essential items were brought to the doorstep of houses and were purchased. Customers didn’t have many options and had to be satisfied with what the seller brought along with him. Even bakers and butchers used to bring their supplies to the servants door of all houses where the cook would choose what the family needed. This was also way before the advent of technical tools, so definitely no chainsaws like these.

The industrial revolution was a major event in the history of British people. It brought enormous change to the lives of the citizens.

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How To Choose A Genealogy Site On Internet

Are you interested in building your family tree? Searching for a website to find out more on genealogy is quite over whelming to a beginner. There are sites which are free and those which go for options like pay per click or even subscription. It is much easier and effective to search online than use conventional methods. You will have to spend money for collecting basic data even if you are searching online.

Some of the main sites used by people keen on building family trees are:-

www.freebmd.org.uk-gives information relates to birth, death and marriage indexes for England and Wales.
www.familysearch.org offers data for a huge international genealogy website which birth, marriage and death certificates is run by Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
www.rootsweb.com can be used for genealogy chat etc

Before finalizing on the site, you need to check if they contain the basic genealogy tools and resources like birth, death and marriage certificates. A copy of the census report plays a main role in determining family history. You need to be convinced that the data is genuine and legal to use. Try obtaining original copies of the documents to be sure that you are following correct leads.

Tracing out your family history has become simpler with the advent of internet and its facilities.